Today is the first day of school for the children of South African.
It’s also the day I start with my new years’ resolutions.
To me, this day is also known as
- the day I start to go to the gym again,
- the day I start eating healthy again and,
- the first day I promise to write more on my blog.
Needless to say, because I have postponed my New Year’s until today, I must be the reason there is PRO in the word procrastinator,
Today is the day my procrastination stops.
- I love myself too much to keep putting off doing the activities that I know will benefit me.
- I love myself too much to keep practicing bad habits that have not brought significant change to my life.
- I love my kids too much to deprive them of a motivated, go-getter of a mother. I am who they are. And if I’m my best self then will they be their best.
Time for a change.
In order to kill off my postponement habits, I have to become aware of my own BS.
Here are my reasons for procrastination:
- I’m subconsciously trying to be a perfectionist
I try to write a blog post and if my topic or writing isn’t up to scratch, I give up.
- I feel too lazy
My brain tells me to clean my house when I think of doing a task
- I’m tired
My brain tells me to sleep later than usual and then I will wake up feeling more refreshed, and then I will perform better at completing my tasks. This is a lie my brain keeps telling me
- I overthink / My mind wanders / My mind runs away from one though to the next
Like when I was writing point number 3 above my brain immediately thought of another post to write about how our brains are lying to us on a daily basis. Is that a post for another day? Definitely. But I have to say it and do it else my brain takes over and writes the post based on the other story.
- I worry about what people will think about me and my story
- I have no motivation to start
- My mind is telling me not to do it
- Once I started, I lose interest after a while and want to move on to something else
Based on all of the above reasons I can see my mind is not my ally, not yet anyway. I have to make it an alliance by training it to think and do the way I want it to. If my brain steps out of line I have every right to bring it back to the topic at hand.
Here’s how I do this
- Instead of acting on my impulsive thoughts I write them down (almost on a ‘to do later list’)
- I anchor my mind by thinking about what I can smell, see, hear and touch and talk to myself in my head about the sensations.
- I talk to myself and ask myself if what I’m doing is helping me to reach my goals
- Instead of opening 17 tabs on Chrome (because that the number of thoughts I have in relation to when I open Chrome) I just focus on the currently open one and a make a note of the other ideas I want to google on my ‘to do later list’.
- I stick to doing only one thing at a time. If my mind is buzzing too much I do two things at the most. Then I alternate between these two tasks to not get bored.
- I’m learning to be confident in my abilities
- I’m learning to love what I’m doing
- I don’t block out other things that happen to me. I will acknowledge it and then write down the notices and reminders. Things that must be put away or tidied I do immediately if it will only take me a few seconds. (I’m surprised how much tidying or meal prep I can do while warming my son’s cereal in the microwave)
- I don’t act on impulsive thoughts like googling the questions that pop into my head. I write them down to do later.
- I am strict with myself. I talk and scold and praise myself when the need arises.
- I take a daily tyrosine supplement.
- I meditate regularly using this Android app.
Writing down our thoughts, emotions and experiences is the first step in acknowledgement that something is wrong and in finding a way to correct it.
Wow, I wrote this whole post within a few hours normally I take a whole day!
I tried my best to stay focused and besides the minor checking of WhatsApp and doing work I actually gave this post the full attention it deserves.
In conclusion: Whatever you think, just think the opposite. (Hmmm…sounds like a good post for ANOTHER DAY!)